If you feel that you must put down a woman every time you meet one in order to lower her value, what are you assuming? You assume that she is better than you. You assume that she is above you. You assume that you are worth less than she is, and now you must tear her value down to your level of misery.
If you feel that you must put use a NEG with women every time you meet a really hot one, in order for you to feel valuable enough to talk to her… The problem is not that of presenting value.
Moreover, it lies in the fact of men approaching with the mindset and belief that “THEY must show high value, and they must lower her value.” I have met tons of guys through the years to discuss pickup, and the issue of “best strategy on approaching women” pops up repeatedly. They try to devise complex strategies in order to approach a woman as that you think they were planning to rob a bank. The interesting part is that regardless of who she is as a person, their first thought is, “I must go in, demonstrate higher value, and tear her down and lower hers.”
Well, what if I were to offer a different perspective on the concept “DHV” (Display High Value)?
What if you were to possess the mind-frame of having high value? I for one never meet a woman and assign a higher value to her, than I assign to my own personality.
First off… I don’t use a NEG to lower her value - I use the principle behind it in a light-hearted tonality to break her state, or that of the group she is in, to show her that I am not Joe Blow from around the block. In other words, it has become nothing but an ice-breaker tool for me, if she doesn’t respond to my opener in the positive frame I am putting out there.
Secondly… My game is extremely physically oriented, I touch people straight off the opener and stick to it until the close. All things serve as tools to apply touch, or vice versa… Why is that?
To me, life in general is about assuming that I have what it takes to meet my goals, and to act accordingly. Anything I do from the minute I wake up until I fall asleep circles around this assumption of myself.
All of the various communication principles I apply are tools to illustrate to the rest of the world that I assume that my value is high. That I have confidence in myself, no matter who’s competing, and in whatever context!
These things ARE tools to DHV… or as I’d say it, to DC (”Display Confidence”) and in a seductive context they are designed and used to
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Create a frame of sensual interaction
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Enforce the frame of sensual interaction
In my opinion, DHV’ing becomes bad when it is thought of as an important step on the path to a woman’s bed. Why use a pair of crutches to get laid?
Why display high value for the “wrong” reasons? Why qualify to your target girl – when you know that a succesful pickup artist is the one that doesn’t bother to qualify for anything or anyone, and has everyone else qualifying for him/her at the same time?
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