Powerful Connections

A lot of people I meet have pre-conceptions about who I am and the life I live as soon as they hear me answer the question: ”So what do you do for a living?” with the words ”I’m a pickup coach.”

I’ve met a lot of different people over the years and most all of them have been fun to witness as the above sentense alone would make them take one step back from me, either physically or verbally.

One of the things that entertain me the most is that the majority of the people that have learned about my profession have a biased idea about the implications of my job and they are never scared of sharing their points of view.

”Oh, so you must be hooking up with a lot of girls?”

”How do you feel about being so manipulating?”

… And more questions along those lines. It was just a few days ago when a girl actually accused me of being easy… I found that extremely amusing since I was screening her to find out whether or not it would work between us and I had refrained from making any moves on her what so ever.

I am often accused of being arrogant, simply because I do not believe in the possibility of me being rejected. Many people have a hard time of understanding this mental strategy, so they choose to label me: Arrogant, full of it, smart-ass.

That is the go to strategy for most of us when we don’t understand something: We distort input and fit it in with a label that we DO understand. So I am perceived as arrogant on many occasions. And I have no problems with it; I respect other people’s perception of the world.

Through the last 7 months of being single I have learnt that the world is what we make it to be. I have been through lows and highs along the way. I have met several new friends and interesting girls and I have been through a journey of commercial ups and downs.

Every step of the way I have held my core principles at heart: To me, life has become all about contributing to other people, even those that do not hold you at highest regard.

What most of us do not get, what we fail to miss, are the feelings behind other people’s behavior. I’ll be completely open with you: I do not live the life of a rock star. I do not hook up with girls every day of the week. I do not manipulate with people to make them do as I want them to. Yes, I CAN – No, I DON’T.

I live to serve others to the best of my ability and I do not want to hook up with a girl unless she is extremely special. That, to me, is what being a pickup coach is all about.

Only one person can ever be responsible for the standards you hold for yourself, and I will always choose to raise my standards and be open to input from people with an open mind and heart, whenever I doubt what is the right level to aim for… What are your standards?