Powerful Connections

Dear friend,

A few days ago I received a very special Christmas present. A reader of my new eBook “Powerful Game - Strategies of a Highly Successful Pickup Artist” decided to write a full review of the book after reading it and applying the principles in his life. I was amazed to see how the contents of the book touched him, and I feel priviledged that he has let me share this review with you.

The reviewer is 27 years old and lives in Denmark. Here’s the story:

“Powerful Game - Strategies of a Highly Successful Pickup Artist” teaches a pickup style that uses no openers, routines, or complex diagrams á la Mystery. The author, Anders Tryka a.k.a. “Dreamz”, calls this “natural game.”

The spirit of Anders’ pickup style taught in Powerful Game can be likened to the martial art of Krav Maga. Krav Maga differs from the traditional martial arts in that it is based on natural body movements, thereby making it “easy to learn, and hard to forget”. In Krav Maga you don’t learn complicated sequences of contortionist body movements, no 720 turnaround jump-kicks. You get a framework and a mindset for defending yourself, which is designed to be quickly absorbed in your body and spirit.

I see this resembled in Powerful Game, where Anders likewise provides a framework and a mindset. The book is organized in two parts. The first part explores tools for creating a great life of your own choosing. The second section has an explicit attraction focus.

I absolutely  recommend not skipping the first half of the book. Many of the concepts here come from the world of NLP: setting SMART goals, re-framing all that happens in your world to the positive, being your own authority in life (internally referencing), understanding the stages of learning, etc. These are tools for boosting your inner game. I have been working with an NLP coach for just over a year, using these very tools. I can attest that using these tools with faith will enable you to become the person you want to be. In traditional PUA-speak (which Anders is avoiding as much as possible in this book), this section shows you a way to becoming the Alpha-male version of yourself.

The second half of the book is dedicated to specific principles of attraction. There are no canned openers, routines, kiss-, phone- or f-close recipes. The verbal techniques are not phrases but patterns – and I mean easily applicable and memorable patterns. For example, on the topic of “openers” (initiating conversation), Anders teaches that it doesn’t really matter what you say. It’s all about how you say it, and how you combine statements and questions. Using these guidelines allows you to make up congruent openers on the spot. As with all concepts presented in the book, you learn the how and the why, as opposed to any canned specifically so recipes.

I especially like the book’s focus on social dynamics, which again reminds me of Krav Maga. The martial art of Krav Maga teaches spatial awareness, or “tactical behavior”. You must be aware of your surroundings to make use of them, rather than be surprised by the guy with the crowbar behind you. Likewise in Powerful Game, Anders teaches effective techniques for understanding and manipulating social dynamics. Being aware of what’s going on around you is similarly important in both arts.

In Powerful Game as in Krav Maga, you take charge: verbally and physically. For example, how do you join a group of people for attracting one of the girls in it? Groups of people can be joined by briefly breaking the group’s conversational flow, and then establishing yourself as a new member in the group. This is achieved by creating a vacuum that can be used for stepping into the group both verbally and physically (the concept of “lock-in”). As all the other attraction techniques taught in the book, lock-in (which I have tried – it’s an absolute rush when you make it happen for the first time!) is easy to learn and hard to forget.

My one point of criticism is, that the book could have used more polishing. The reading flow is broken at times by clunky sentence structure.

On the whole I wholeheartedly recommend this book – because there’s so much Krav Maga over it. This is a holistic approach to having a great life and excelling at pickup, that is easy to learn, and hard to forget.