(Field report from our coach Martin a.k.a. HappyTalk)
Last Saturday I was at a friend’s birthday party. I was dressed in an incredible stylish Santa costume, drinking a ton of vodka. Shortly after my arrival I pass out from drinking too much too fast and I wake up again at 4:45 AM thinking “FUCK! I missed the whole thing!!” - Kids, do NOT drink!!! You will go CRAZY!!!
The positive thing about waking up at 4:45 AM: I was almost sober again, so we go to the nearest bar which has about 100 people inside. I open one (1) group of people, … the hottest girl I could see, standing with a friend by the dance floor. Being the PUA that I am, I drag her out there and instantly start applying KINO, gently pushing her up against the nearby walls, so we can stand really close together and build up an intimate atmosphere. Santa gets away with everything!
Something I do a lot is to move their hands to the position where I would like to have them, in doing this I actually escalate on their behalf. This could be around my hips, or I move them so they hold around my head - especially when I sense it’s time for the makeout. Or, I simply move one of her legs around me so she can hold me tight. She’s in control all of the way and I lead, it makes perfect sense!
When we are done dancing I grab two chairs, one for my girl and one for me, effectively holding the initiative and locking myself in with her. The friend is already seated at this point, so I befriend her and have fun with them until the friend sub-communicates that she’s cool with me being there with them. I am thinking “Go - I’m in” now, and quickly go for the makeout just before the place closes for the night.
The three of us leave the place and guys left and right are moving in on my target, desperately trying to secure SOMETHING before facing that they will have to go home alone. I use the situation to my advantage and quickly move to isolate my girl around a corner and we have another tongue-down. We then head to my place to do the natural things that grown-ups do together when they’re all alone.
All in all, it took me 60 minutes of escalation fun with a really nice and goodlooking girl from the second I approached until we reached the point where the bedtime stories began.
After she had left, I burst into laughter… “My room is full of condom casings that are ripped open. Christmas is here. Nice.”
2 Responses
Good for you that you found your target, got out your weapon out , and set your self up for the score. Yes and it was 4.30 in the morning and I have to question about the women taste, a drunken man in a red suit. Come on pick up is not just about scoring it’s about get a real relationship a fuck is a fuck. Or was it a quick masturbation.
Posted on November 27th, 2008 at 4:55 pm
For one thing - is you pass out early and wake up late, you’re pretty much sober. I know HappyTalk was.
I completely agree with you that pick up is not just about scoring with the girls. We are - if ANYTHING - advocates of that viewpoint. To you, pick up is about getting a relationship. Cool. It’s like that for many people. You need to respect that it’s not like that for ALL people though.
We must also realize the facts and act in the real world, where some (I argue: MANY) women actully go out looking to get laid, and many guys I have met along the way hide behind the excuse “it’s not just about scoring” when they walk home alone.
So I gotta ask… If an attractive woman is out there, looking for a man, and I am not man enough to walk up to her and read her well enough to know there’s no need to bullshit - then, what tkind of man am I? Granted, I have certain standards that she has to meet before I go ahead and escalate. So does HappyTalk, and it does not shine through in his blog post… But I know him well enough to tell you this much: That girl has been screened HARD, and challenged even HARDER.
Yesterday I was out with a client one on one and we met the exact same frame of mind in a very interesting girl. I have a principle of not engaging in my own sets when I’m out with paying clients, and stayed with eye contact for 10 seconds, and the look in her eyes was NOT something you could go wrong with translating into: “I WANT YOU TO GET OVER HERE AND GET BUSY WITH ME!” She gave me several AI’s and said cheers to me across from the bar while playing peek-a-boo, even though 6 guys were talking her up.
I told my client what was going on, and he asked me what I would do, had I been there alone. The answer is simple, I’d do what HappyTalk did, because that is EXACTLY what the girl was looking for. I didn’t act, and she chatted up another guy, and he did all the right things, and escalated quickly - HER SEARCH WAS OVER! As I was enjoying a beer at a different bar when the coaching was over, she suddenly walked in, with that guy on her side. They were making out left and right, no doubt what would be happening between them later.
I didn’t seize the moment. Pick up is, besides respect of other people, about seizing and living in the moment, thus gaining new learning and developing yourself in the process.
Posted on November 28th, 2008 at 6:03 pm
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