Powerful Connections

When the going gets tough, the tough get going.

Today I am a happy camper. The RealManConference is just about over down in Amsterdam, and I am pretty sure we will see the main Danish forum over-flowing with massive new seduction-oriented content. I am happy, as I greatly anticipate these new ideas, I feel the Danish community needs them.

Meanwhile, back at the Bat Cave, the final steps needed to launch the new Powerful Attraction web-shop, are being completed. As I look in my inbox to see how far along we are, I notice that my man in India is progressing with eBook layouts, and the credit card company has cleared our site. All we need now is to complete the DVD’s and to get full integration with the backend financial systems, so we can process orders automatically!

However, not all is great in the state of Denmark. Today, as I woke up, I caught myself thinking (uh-oh!)…

Last week I had a PowerBOOST! with two guys attending. I had closed the sign-ups at two participants, because that was the number I felt I could stand behind on a long week-end out. The guys did great, although I was thinking at a point - What is the foundation of our business? What does a seduction coach do?

Well, the answer to the first question is: Dreams that have not been met. And, the answer to the second question is: That depends.

I once read somewhere that guys and girls go about their dreams differently. Guys have a fantasy and seek to fulfill it. Girls have a fantasy and seek to NOT fulfill it.

Yeah, guys and girls sure do work and different ways… About a week ago, when interviewed for a book, I explained one of the oldest and to me most well-known paradigms of the seduction community: Guys have logic, Girls have chick-logic.

I’m not quite sure that the explanation went down as I had intended it, which was of course entirely my own fault. But, none-the-less, let me just recap the core of it all.

The guy / girl difference

When a guy (full of self-confidence) is out, and sees a wonderful girl, he thinks to himself: “Wow, that’s a hot girl, I want to have sex with her.” After having this epiphany, he heads over to the girl, charms his way in if needed, and does what he can to get her to go to his cave. They then have sex, and the guy wakes up in the morning thinking to himself: “YES! That’s a HOT girl, and I had sex with her. I’M DA MAN! I gotta call my friends and tell them all about it!”

The girl on the other hand, uses chick logic, and abides by social conformity. She’s out on the town, flirts with some guys, and ends up in one guy’s cave, where they have sex. In the morning, the girl wakes up, looks at the guy and thinks to herself: “I had great sex with that guy. That means he’s hot.”

Over the years, I have thought a lot about this story, and the signals in it. I’m not saying that I completely buy into it, well, being a guy, and having coached many other guys, I can tell you that the guy part is true. But, the girl part?

We can look at the story from different perspectives. Is it about the learning curve? Is it about rationalization and post-rationalization? Is it just a cool belief to have as an insecure guy venturing out into the nightlife to learn the philosophy and lifestyle of the pickup artist?

To me, the story is just what it is… A good story to discuss with intelligent girls that are always pissed off with the sexistic viewpoint, … which, of course, always entertains me to great extent. What is it about to you?