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… But it will never be forgotten!

Thanks to all of you that have been following the blog, and sending me email with questions to articles and requests for specific articles from my hand!

Thanks to those of you that have started linking to the site and spreading the word about it in your social circles.

I do realize that the frequency of newly added articles has dropped a bit as of late. That’s only because 2009 has been a very turbulent year for me - professionally as well as in my personal life. I do apologize for letting all of these unforeseen events impact the blog posting frequency, and I can guarantee you that I will do my best to ensure that you will be able to read fresh content here at least twice a month in 2010.

That being said, here are some brief highlights from this blog:

• On average there was a new article every two weeks as targeted.
• Our daily page views have grown by 300 % compared to January 2009.
• According to Google Analytics, we have a good deal of loyal readers.
• Several big PUA sites have started linking to some of the quality articles found here.
• I’ve been invited to guest blog for 7 different PUA and NLP related blogs, 2 of them MAJOR sites.

The only place where I am not so happy, is the comments section. I find that very few comments are dropped. On some sites that’s quite alright but, I don’t want my blog to be a one-way-street. As I always write back to you on e-mail when you comment through that media - what have the rest of the world’s readers done? share your thoughts with everyone.

In other words:

• If you like an article, post a comment and stting whay and what you like, and pass it along to your friends
• If you dislike an article, post a comment stating why and what you dislike, and pass it along to your friends
• If you think I’m full of B.S. send me an email or post a comment and prepare for my wrath - naaaah, just kidding.

Here’s to a great 2010!

Anders

A few months ago I was contacted by some sociology students that were writing their final paper and had chosen to go in-depth with the seduction community - why does what we pickup artists do work, and how?

I was amazed as I read through their findings. To see all the theoretical background and to read the names of so many great thinkers that had theoretically and physically proven the why’s and what’s behind our successes. It also struck me that the linkage between the scholastic theories and the physical application in the seduction society was new to many people.

The team behind the report have allowed me to share it with the world and I will, soon enough. This post is about something completely different. My role in the report was to serve them as an expert - after all a longwithstanding member of the PUA society should have some insights, particularly when he also holds thousands of hours worth of coaching experience. 

Information that makes a difference

One of the definitions to being an expert at anything is to keep upgrading your knowledge in that field. I read a definition for a master PUA that said “The mPUA is a PUA that has integrated the skills and mindsets of the lifestyle to an extent that he no longer contemplates them consciously.”

In terms of upgrading your knowledge, theoretically that is, I can recommend several cool places of the internet. A personal favorite of mine is PUA Forums, a site dedicated to the art of picking up women. There are so many great sites out there, so why do I choose to recommend this one?

Simple really! It is all about the story of the person behind the site:

 

Five years ago I was in an unhappy relationship, working a job I hated and was out of shape and depressed with my life. I just assumed that this is what happens in life and I should just sit back an get used to it. The good times were over, I was just prepared to admit defeat and accept the fact that I was going to be miserable like everyone else. Something inside told me there was more out there, but I had to get over my fears to make changes in my life.

Then I met some friends in New York who helped me get my life in order. I started being more active, got in shape and learned how to be more social and turned my life completely around. I built this site specifically to teach others how to live life to it’s full potential.

 

That, dear readers, is something I recognize and respect. Go check out the site, sign up, and plan how you are going to make this day the best day of your life, … until tomorrow comes! 

Many people celebrate Valentine’s Day by treating our loved ones to gifts as tokens of our affection. It is not a question of whether we do something romantic to commemorate the legend of Valentinus – it’s an absolute must. We have embraced the legacy of this day, and made it our own.

The Roman monk Valentinus performed marriage ceremonies for soldiers despite the emperor’s orders. He helped couples declare their love. To me, this monk’s story is not necessarily a story about love. Rather, I find that it is a story about providing people in need with resources that will help them achieve a higher degree of happiness in life. It is a story of rebellion through kind acts towards other human beings.

Instead of selecting a girl with whom I could spend the day dedicated to celebrate the story of St. Valentinus, I had decided to share my knowledge and inspiration with singles. My speech to the guys was full of positive moments, and as I headed to the next room to talk with the women about cracking the code to men, I noticed that my palms started to sweat. I had jotted down two lines in my notes. Two headers for 30 minutes were all that my brain would allow me to jot down.

I went into the room and instantly noticed that I was being evaluated, judged, and sentenced in a split-second by a vast majority of these women. Everywhere in the room the girls were engaged in conversation, leaving the initiative up to me. After recognizing a few of the rapport leaders I took one step forward, and sighed. It was a long sigh that came from the bottom of my lungs. At the end of the sigh every person in the room had ended their talking stream. I enjoyed that brief moment of absolute silence for 2 seconds before speaking.

What do guys want, and what do girls want? How and why do we make it hard for ourselves to find love? How do we keep our relationships energetic? How do we spot assholes and weed them out before engaging in relationships with them? What is the true gift of being approached by someone else? As we dove into these questions, I noticed that I was no longer nervous. I was in a process of reframing their perception of men, of me, and at one point I consciously found myself thinking about how different the energy of this room was compared to that of the room with all the guys. With the guys, the mood had been upbeat, empowering and action-oriented – but this room was different from all other assemblies in which I have ever spoken.

And then I started thinking, … about why I was there? What is it that I can contribute to all of these magnificent women? I decided to just enjoy the moment and trust that I made a difference in their lives as they were making one in mine right now. Every last one of the women in that room commanded my respect. I told them some things I have never told other people before and, of course, I felt so happy inside as I told these stories and beliefs of my world. I loved them.

I have to say that from the first sigh – which really served as a great lesson on how to command the attention of a room full of people – to that last second of talking with the women, I was feeling butterflies inside my stomach. I spoke from the heart, I felt genuine, and I walked out of the room feeling great about the gift I had received; the gift of sharing dreams and fears in an open room.

Valentinus really did have a great idea. He stood up for what he believed in. No wonder people would leave flowers outside the window of his cell after he was thrown in jail for marrying people in spite of Caesar’s orders. My guess is that Valentinus believed that the world will grow as we provide people with gifts that come from our hearts. Before this Valentine’s Day, I had always believed this tradition to be a shallow one.

As I woke up yesterday I found myself in an energetic state. I glanced at my speaker notes and realized that I had not addressed one single thing in them. I had surrendered to the flow, I had listened with my heart and I had spoken with love. Valentine’s Day will never be the same again.