Danish TV show ”Singleliv” (a show about the life of singles) just featured a new kid on the block.. His name is Anders Tryka, and he is described by the TV production company as ”Anders, 32, is a lonely dating coach. Although he makes a living by teaching guys to find and attract women, he has yet to find a woman of his own.”
Obviously, on a TV show like ”Singleliv” the above description makes a lot of sense to the producers. It’s dramatic. It’s full of paradox. It’s enticing. Alluring even. It makes you curious.
When they approached me and asked if I would be interested in joining the show, I thought it over a few times.
What’s My Background?
I have been on TV and in newspapers several times before, and I know that even the best of intentions are at risk of being cut by an editor focused on creating drama. That being said, these are the deeper layers of my ”story” Throughout my career, first in the IT industry as a sales rep, then as a coach, I have been fighting against the odds, let me give you a few examples of what I mean by that:
- Executives would deem me to young to do what I was qualified to do.
- The media would attempt to label me as manipulative and scheming.
- Business partners would refrain from using me as a sub-contractor out of fear of what their customers would say if they googled me.
- Women, upon realizing that I use part of my time as a pickup coach, would bail on me.
I have learned through my training in NLP that the second you judge someone, you lose all ability to influence them. Anders Tryka the dating coach, as seen on ”Singleliv,” is a whole lot more than what 8 minutes of TV once per week will show you.
Through all of the feedback in my life, I have prevailed. Over the past two years I have coached hundreds of people with the sole intent of enabling them to shift their focus towards leading a happy and rewarding life, not just for themselves – but also to add value and joy to the lives of others. I have managed to maintain and develop strong relationships to several business customers that come back for my coaching or consulting, time and time again. I have a strong circle of friends I would walk through hell to protect. I believe I have met a special person that I connect with on level like I never have before.
No matter what you may choose to perceive as your own truth about me, this is my truth: Deep inside I am a happy person that enjoys life. Over the years I have helped hundreds of guys meet and provide great experiences to tons of people in their lives. I thank you all for that blessing.
My Point?
Actually, that is my real motivation for accepting the invitation to be on ”Singleliv.” I hope to prove that you do not have to appeal to the lowest common denominator in order for you to be featured on a TV show. My intent was to show who I am behind the dating coach label.
I know that in being a “regular” on the TV show “Singleliv” I risk trash-talking, losing business customers and whatnot. So be it. In the end, I trust that my friends are full of integrity and stand up for me as I do for them, you see…
Someone I deeply respect and admire told me that it’s OK for a guy to flirt with girls, even if he is out with his girlfriend. As long as he remembers to check in with her, take time out to really ”feel” her and then squeeze her hand if he senses she has a bad day. Beautiful words from a person I hold in the highest regard.
All I’m asking from my friends and those of you that I have helped, either by my words on this or other media, my coaching or as your dedicated friend, is to get a squeeze in the hand from you now and then, in the highly unlikely event that I should be having a bad day.
Is that too much too ask?
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