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The Hooking Point is an Illusion

Posted by anderstryka On October - 16 - 2008

Recently I had some great input from a happy reader of “Powerful Game - Strategies of a Highly Succesful Pick Up Artist”

In terms of seduction techniques, the definition of the hooking point (hook-point) is “the moment that the group and/or target no longer want you to leave.” Well, as far as I’m concerned, the hook-point has nothing to do with attraction.

Only in the models where the base belief about attraction is that it is your job to create it within other people, you will find relevance for the concept of the hook-point. To my mind, this actively contradicts the very definition of the hook-point itself.

In traditional pick up models, both attraction and interest phases are externally validated, and the close is viewed as the ultimate external validation; a reward for the pickup artist. Sure, it’s camouflaged behind the concepts of “rewarding the girl,” and when you work your way through that, at the very heart of the model you will typically find an expressed need for external validation. So, what they mean is: The close is my reward for a job well done. In brief, it looks like this:

Attraction (external), Interest (external), Close (my reward) - And the fun part is that we come up with excuses later on, after getting a verbal or non-verbal “no” for an answer: “I wasn’t interested, so I ejected.”

Well, at Powerful Attraction, our view on the art of seduction is a little bit different. We believe that we must search for things that interest us, and then decide whether it attracts us, before closing – which is a mutual reward. To sum this up:

Interest (internal), Attraction (internal), Close (mutual reward)

Or

“I depend on the feedback of others to be able to feel successful.” vs. “I choose to escalate based on my values.”

mirage1You see, the hook-point exists in a paradigm in which we MUST build attraction and must show value. In knowing that you show value just by opening the conversation, you are harvesting a mental abundance like no other. As you lock in with the group you are strengthening the frame of possible positive communication, and you start screening members of the group until you have a meaningful “target.”

The above paragraph is at the very center of everything we do at Powerful Attraction. As you will notice throughout the eBook “Powerful Game” we exempt you from the duty of having to generate attraction, and from building external interest. However, we provide you with concepts to strengthen your abilities in this area as a natural flow of the conversation.

It is my core belief that you have only few things to keep in mind in seductive communication. You need to evaluate if you are interested, through qualification, AND to communicate that you are attracted, both physically and verbally. The hook-point does not exist in this paradigm that to us is called “The Powerful Attraction Model” – as long as I am locked in with the group, I do not care if someone in it is attracted to me or not.

I’m much too busy figuring out who is attractive to me.

10 Reasons Your Dates Go Wrong

Posted by anderstryka On October - 15 - 2008

manhairAt present, I am working on two new eBook projects, the first of these has the premise on following up on that first meeting with the girl. Instead of just developing the books all alone with feedback only from my peers, I am thinking that I will share my book content ideas on the blog.

Please, PLEASE feel free to e-mail me or comment with your ideas, as it will only make for a better book in the end, right?

Let me just skip into the section of the first date, and some advice on what NOT to do. Here are some of the top reasons your dates can go bad – quickly.

1. Arrange the usual date

I don’t know about you but… X-Men and pop corn don’t really make a happy date these days. Why waste time in a dark cinema not looking at each other, not being able to talk, when you can arrange a fantastic trip out under the stars with a bottle of white wine instead? This even has a lower price, unless you plan on dishing up with caviar as well.

2. Not continuing the good stuff from your first meeting

On far too many occasions the new relationship is stranded after (on) the first date. Wannabe pickup artists have long promoted the concept of keeping the subjects of Day 2 (the first date) identical to that of the first meeting. For one thing, they fear to seem incongruent with the role they have taken on. Another key concept is that of re-activating the same notions that made the girl “buy” you in the first place. The second concept I highly recommend.

3. Sitting across the table from your date

Do not ever do this. If you go somewhere to eat or drink something, let the girl sit down first, and then sit down right next to her – it is much easier to access each other physically this way, and makes for an easy-flowing conversation.

4. Talking about your job as if it’s interesting

It’s  not. What you CONTRIBUTE to the world, and what you enable others to feel is. How you do it is highly irrelevant.

5. Asking about what she does

Do you want to be one of the 20 guys she has dated, or do you want to stand out? Ask about what her dreams are, or what drives her today. “Normal” girls will respond “Oh I’m a nurse…” whereas the more creative and intelligent girls will say: “I enjoy helping people feel safe…” This makes a hell of a difference!

6. Neglecting to touch her physically

If you do not show physical interest on the date, the girl will either think that you’re a puss, gay or emotionally detached. That’s not my speculation, that’s a fact.

7. Ignoring her interest signals

If you do not pick up on her subtle signals of interest and respond in kind, she will start looking for something else. Chances are though, that you normally do not pick up on her signals. Studies have shown that most men are too busy with thinking about sex to actually notice female signals of interest unless absolutely obvious.

8. Follow her every whim

I don’t know about you, … Personally, I hate a girl that poses no conversational challenge or will do whatever I ask of her, sometimes even without having to ask. Do you think that women are any different? If she says something blatantly unsympathetic, call her on it. If anything, it creates tension, and tension is like foreplay… You want to build, and then release.

9. Paying the bill without asking for anything in return

It’s like walking up to a girl at a bar and asking if you can buy her a drink. How many times has that gotten you anywhere with the truly amazing women? You want to establish equality right away, in every way. Guys often fear doing this, as it may cause them to seem cheap. You’ll be amazed with what you can get away with saying when applying a smile as you tell her the rules.

10. Staying for too long

Do not ever allow the “so, … your place or mine?” part to come up on the first date, if you’re serious. Always display scarcity, and leave early. This is key in terms of establishing relationships, as you will want to walk into one on your terms, and guess what: If you have nothing better to do after hanging out with her for 2-3 hours, … you’re doomed for the rest of your relationship.

I hope that you will find inspiration in these tips and that you will share your ideas with me and other readers of this blog.

Finally the Book is ready!

Posted by anderstryka On October - 4 - 2008

It’s been a long while since I first decided to write an e-book with a summary of my favorite strategies for pickup and life success. And now it’s ready! Yes, It’s READY folks… I hope you will enjoy it.

This book is for all the guys that helped me in the early years of my pickup artist life, and most definitely for all the guys and girls that I have had the priviledge of helping later on.

First and most of all I want to recognize Steve Linder, my NLP trainer, for being the man he is. Many of the tools in my book are some that I have learned from him, and there is not a better and more caring coach out there.

A special big thank you goes out to my friend Mrhviid, without whom I would not be where I am today. You are without a doubt the ugliest pickup artist I know, but dammit I love you. And you are one of the truly great PUA’s out there, to my mind the best in Northern Europe.

Also, I need to thank the “bigtime” PUA instructors… and my local Danish competitors… You have inspired us to eliminate canned material altogether, and women everywhere benefit from it!

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